Calling all real ladies

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As an independent student newspaper and the paper of record for the city of Berkeley, the Daily Cal has been communicating important updates during this pandemic. Your support is essential to maintaining this coverage. For some, it might seem a rather early age to talk about the idea of being single.

For others, the state of being single at the age of 20 deserves some tears. This is also the right time to start asking myself what it means to be a single woman. Nowadays, singlehood is no longer perceived as a restrictive condition for women in most places. A stable, formal relationship is no longer prioritized as the center of female life. Women can do nearly everything without having to formally attach themselves to a man. Our choices of singlehood are no longer intentional actions of feminist protest, but personal choices that reflect what we value more in our own lives.

Even though a lot of people say things such as being single allows us to focus on ourselves, these so-called advantages are not really relevant to our relationship status. That said, being single should not be considered a static, passive state but a dynamic, active process in which we consciously learn to be independent and build a healthy relationship with ourselves. Just one or two weeks ago, my mom saw the biceps on my arm and challenged me to arm wrestling. I put her hand down in less than a second.

Even my dad had to defeat me with a lot of sweat. As they were marveling at my muscles, I realized the extent to which heavy work — which I had to do all by myself during the past five years outside home — has made my physical competence grow. But true independence requires not only physical strength but also mental strength. Being able to carry six suitcases from home in China to my freshman dorm in Berkeley is one thing — being able to do so without feeling depressed and lonely after is another.

But what makes us mentally strong and independent is the process of learning to do all these things alone. Last spring break, I went to Colombia with friends. Since school was about to start, my friends had to go back without me. I was left all alone in the airport of a South American country where few people knew English. Later, a staff member told me in broken English that they accidentally checked in my baggage and could not find it. I suddenly felt so helpless that I started crying in public. Despite the tears dripping down my face, I had to figure out ways to arrange my new flight plans and find a place to do away with the remaining 10 hours until my new flight.

As I look back now, the troubles that I went through all by myself have taught me invaluable lessons. I discovered what scared me and learned to face those things. I realized that I was capable of conquering my fear and overcoming these difficulties by myself. It is truly inspiring to see my potential to be far stronger and more resilient than I thought I could be. It allows us to focus on our own passions and fully devote ourselves to the pursuit of them.

It encourages us to recognize what is truly important to us without external influences. Most importantly, it means that we learn to seek answers within ourselves instead of looking to others. What matters is that we know how to search for wholeness within ourselves.

As we find such wholeness, we learn that a romantic relationship is simply a beautiful addition to our world, not a solution to everything. We're an independent, student-run newsroom.

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